Love is Anything But Grey

A young man goes into a drug store to buy three boxes of chocolate. The pharmacist asks, “What size do you want – small medium or large?”  The youth replies, “Well, here’s how it is.  I’ve been seeing this girl for a while and she’s really pretty.  I want the chocolate because I think tonight might be ‘the’ night.  You see, we’re having dinner with her parents and she and I are going out for a walk.  If she lets me hold her hand, I’m going to give her the small box of chocolates.  If she let’s me kiss her on the cheek, I’m going to give her the medium box of chocolates.  But, if she lets me kiss her on the lips, I’m going to give her the big box of chocolates. The teen makes his purchase and leaves. Later that evening, as he sits down to dinner with his girlfriend and her parents, he’s asked to give the blessing.  The guy begins the prayer and continues praying for several minutes. The girl leans over and whispers, “You never told me that you were such a religious person.”  And he leans over to her and says, “You never told me that your father is the pharmacist.”  On Valentine’s weekend, one of the most anticipated movies of the year was released to theatres across North America and around the world.  It is called Fifty Shades Of Grey and is based upon the novel of the same name.  With book sales totaling over 100 million and being published in 52 languages, there was a ready-made viewing audience and pre-release ticket sales set an all-time record.  The film was made in Vancouver, British Columbia, and Hollywood is raking in the cash.  But Fifty Shades Of Grey is explicit fornication and carries as strong an R (restricted) rating as censors can possibly give to it.  The underlying message of both the book and the film is that when it comes to morality, there is no black and white, everything is grey (based upon your own personal view of what is right or wrong). This is where Rik Swartzwelder comes into the picture.  Rik is an independent Christian film-maker whose first project, The Least Of These, has garnered multiple awards worldwide.  But it is his second movie, entitled Old Fashioned (Chivalry Makes A Comeback), that has put him in the news.  Timed to be released on the same weekend as Fifty Shades Of Grey, Old Fashioned is its antithesis in every way.  The plot involves a young woman who grows weary of the sex-scene that New York City is and decides to leave.  She fills her car up with gas and heads west, determined to stop and live wherever the vehicle runs out of fuel.  It halts in a small Ohio town where she promptly rents a room above an antique store, owned by a young man whose ideas on dating and marriage are as old-fashioned as the items he sells.  Of course, she has never met someone like this and  finally asks, “What, did you find Jesus?” to which he replies, “No, Jesus found me.”  Eventually a romance develops as she discovers that it is possible in modern America to actually have a courtship where a woman is treated as a lady and not merely as a sex object.  The posters promoting the movie are clever.  One shows  the book, Fifty Shades Of Grey on one side and the Bible on the other and simply asks, “Which one do you want your daughter reading?”  Another shows an old couple celebrating their fiftieth wedding anniversary with the caption about their now, silver-lined hair, “The Real Fifty Shades Of Grey”.  You can find the website about the movie at –

The bottom line.  Old Fashioned is a good reminder for today’s Christian young people that biblically – love is kind, love is pure, love is patient, but love is not grey.